My approach to counselling:
I help people to help themselves. People who take the first step of recognizing that help is advisable and available are courageous. Taking the step to call and come to counselling, with the aim to improve their situation, is a big decision. I realise and acknowledge that. They are also trying to improve their own lives and those of the people around them.
My counselling is based on the methods of person-centred counselling, which understands that each person aims to improve their own well-being in their own manner. I also use other methods that will help each client in the best way, including Gestalt, Transactional Analysis, NLP, Positive Therapy, etc. I integrate those different methods in counselling sessions to provide the appropriate methods of helping each client.
I tailor each session to each client. The counselling sessions are yours. I invite clients to tell me of any preferences that they have, as well as any types of counselling that they may not wish to engage in. Some people have previous experiences of counselling and realise what was effective for them. All people are different, clients bring their varied problems and issues to my counselling practise, where I work with all clients as seperate individuals.
I realise that clients have "ups and downs". Counselling can be challenging in many ways, there will be days when the challenge is easier to focus on than others. I understand those differences and work with them.
Focusing on the present and the future and what you want in your life forms a large part of my counselling.
We live in the present. This is the time for the enjoyment of "the now". The past has happened, it can only be an experience and a memory. The future has not yet happened, it can only be anticipated. If a desired future is affected by past events and experiences, we can work towards understanding and resolution of those past events.
The future can be changed from what it might have been; the past is fixed - it has happened. Acceptance of the past can be important.
I work with the belief that people can attain and maintain autonomy over their lives, enabling them to make their best decisions for themselves - not feeling that they should bounce from one problem to the next, either their own or of others.
Counselling will help you to understand the underlying reasons why you may be using negative thoughts and behavior which you may have learnt in the past - some of which are not useful or appropriate in the present. It will also give ideas of the more enjoyable life that may be available.
Counselling brings awareness, reality and knowledge to anger, confusion, anxiety and depression. It can be fun and laughter, joy, understanding, bringing a sense of knowledge and clarity to problems which may have built up over a long time. It can also be hard mental effort, working towards a better appreciation of your current situation and a future way of living in this wonderful world.
Mental conflict of any kind can often be helped by understanding where it originated. Realising how past problems are really affecting you now, and why, can enable real solutions to real issues. If you are living your current life according to rules or habits which originated a long time ago, you may be unknowingly discontent with the result.
Understanding a problem may be the solution just by itself. Working with that understanding, with clarity and reality, to bring a new viewpoint to life can be the big improvement you wish.
For a prompt appointment, call or text: 07757 233386. I may be with a client, or otherwise occupied, in which case please leave a message with your contact number. I will respond promptly. Or email: firstname.lastname@example.org Or use the contact page to send me an email.